101 ​Essays That Will Change The Way You Think 7 csillagozás

When you choose to value having other people's acceptance over your own, you accept a fate of battling your instincts to assimilate to the needs of the other people's egos.

Because your numbness isn't feeling nothing, it's feeling everything, and never having learned to process anything at all. Numbness is not nothing, neutral is nothing. Numbness is everything at once.

Fear means you're trying to move toward something you love, but your old beliefs, or unhealed experiences, are getting in the way.

The way we raise adults who don't struggle with anxiety is by being adults who accept anxiety.

The purpose of a relationship is not the universe’s way of saying, “You’re worthy, and here’s someone to prove it.”

Telling ourselves everything other people could possibly use against us doesn’t numb us to it. It only makes us believe we are worth those words and that those accusations would be valid.

Being able to experience the unprecedented high that comes from realizing the million things that seemingly didn’t work out in the past was some universal conspiracy to bring you to exactly the right place, somewhere far beyond where you could have imagined for yourself. (It will happen if it hasn’t yet. Just wait.)

I guarantee there is not one person you wouldn’t love if you knew their true story, their whole story, if you lived a day or a year or a lifetime in their shoes.

You can change how you feel. This is something you must remember. It’s as simple as: “I want to feel differently about this, so I am going to focus on a different aspect of it.”

Whenever we’re about to make a choice (about anything, really) we say in our heads what that will sound like. “She graduated and started this job at 20…” or however it goes. It’s as though our decisions can only be acceptable if they sound right, and how they will continue sounding years down the line, whether or not they are right for who we are in that moment.