Imagine standing on a box in the middle of a busy city, dressed as a white-faced bride, and silently using your eyes to ask people for money. Or touring Europe in a punk cabaret band, and finding a place to sleep each night by reaching out to strangers on Twitter. For Amanda Palmer, actions like these have gone beyond satisfying her basic needs for food and shelter – they've taught her how to turn strangers into friends, build communities, and discover her own giving impulses. And because she had learned how to ask, she was able to go to the world to ask for the money to make a new album and tour with it, and to raise over a million dollars in a month. In The Art of Asking, Palmer expands upon her popular TED talk to reveal how ordinary people, those of us without thousands of Twitter followers and adoring fans, can use these same principles in our own lives.
The Art of Asking 10 csillagozás
Eredeti megjelenés éve: 2014
Kedvencelte 2
Most olvassa 2
Várólistára tette 5
Kívánságlistára tette 11
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Amanda Palmer: The Art of Asking 98% How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help
Olvasás közben mindig mindenféle eszembe jutott, amit majd beleírhatok az értékelésbe, de most meg persze semmi.
Elöljáróban annyit, hogy Amandát anno a férje kapcsán ismertem meg (nem személyesen, még mielőtt valaki félreértené :D), és sokáig idegenkedtem tőle, mert valahogy nem volt szimpatikus, és el se tudtam képzelni, hogy Neil, aki kb. introvertáltabb, mint én (már ha ez lehetséges) hogy a csudába keveredett össze egy ekkora partiarc csajjal (a kérdésre amúgy választ kaptam a könyvben, úgyhogy mostantól tudok majd nyugodtan aludni :D). Nem is emlékszem, mikor és miért kezdtem el komolyabban foglalkozni a munkásságával, de a lényeg, hogy kár volt idegenkedni tőle, mert az első benyomás ellenére valójában nagyon jó fej. Még annak ellenére is, hogy a könyv elolvasása közben megállapítottam, hogy a mentalitásunk a lehető legtávolabb áll egymástól; egy csomó mindenre, amiről írt, azt mondtam, hogy „na, én aztán ezt soha”, és azt hiszem, az egyetlen határozott „nahát, szerintem is” a zongoráról és az ukuleléről való véleménye.
Sok mindent, amiről a könyvben írt, annak idején „élőben” követtem Instagramon (Amandával ellentétben én nem vagyok egy nagy Twitteres, meg egyéb szoc. médiás sem), ott voltam pl. Anthony betegségénél (aztán később a halálánál is, de az már a könyv után történt), és nagyon furcsa volt ezeket közvetlenül az ő szemszögéből is még egyszer átélni, és pláne megtudni, hogy hogyan segítették őt ezek az események ahhoz, hogy megtanuljon segítséget kérni és elfogadni.
Amanda Palmer: The Art of Asking 98% How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help
Csodálatos, sokszor újraolvasós.
Amanda Palmer: The Art of Asking 98% How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help
Érdekes szemléletmódja van, a sajátomtól szinte teljes mértékben eltérő, de emiatt lekötött az elejétől a végéig.
Amanda Palmer: The Art of Asking 98% How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help
Nyilván elfogult vagyok, mert imádom a zenéjét, meg mindent amit csinál, de ez jó volt. Nekem is újraolvasós.
Népszerű idézetek
When you openly, radically trust people, they not only take care of you, they become your allies, your family.
Sometimes people will prove themselves untrustworthy.
When that happens, the correct response is not:
Fuck! I knew I couldn't trust anybody!
The correct response is:
Some people just suck.
Moving right along.
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TAKE THE FUCKING FLOWER
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Amanda Palmer: The Art of Asking 98% How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help
In both the art and the business worlds, the difference between the amateurs and the professionals is simple:
The professionals know they're winging it.
The amateurs pretend they're not.
Amanda Palmer: The Art of Asking 98% How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help
You can't ever give people what they want. But you can give them something else. You can give them empathy. You can give them understanding. And that's a lot, and enough to give.
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There's no „correct pass” to becoming a real artist. You might think you'll gain legitimacy by going to art school, getting published, getting signed to a record label. But it's all bullshit, and it's all in your head. You're an artist when you say you are. And you're a good artist when you make somebody else experience or feel something deep or unexpected.
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She's twenty-seven now, a painter with one ovary, the right one, and she's been my Cloud Club housemate for five years. Lee brings her more reams of paper than she needs. She had a fish for a while named Left Ovary. Then Left Ovary died, and she named her new fish Everything.
I'd text her from the road to ask,
How's everything?
And she'd text back,
Everything's really good. He just pooped.
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I have no interest in Doing It Myself. I'm much more interested in getting everybody to help me.
I think a better definition might be UWYC: „Use What You Can”.
[…]
There's really no honor in proving that you can carry the entire load on your own shoulders. And… it's lonely.
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But at the end of the day, we're all human. We're all broken in a way, and we're just trying to feel whole.
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I didn't need a selfless faucet of sympathy, but I wanted him to stroke my cheek, ask how I was feeling, give me a good cuddle. He stayed silent. With every passing day, he felt further and further away.
I started wondering if I'd made a horrible mistake, getting married. What had I been thinking? Who was he anyway? Didn't he care? He was physically there, but he felt like a ghost. I knew what I needed, but asking for specific emotional things felt impossible and obnoxious. He was a human being, He should just instinctively know how to take care of an emotionally exhausted, sick, postabortion wife.
He ought to just know, I thought.
I shouldn't have to fucking ask.
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We've been watching you, and we have evidence that you have NO IDEA WHAT YOU'RE DOING. You stand accused of the crime of completely winging it, you are guilty of making shit up as you go along, you do not actually deserve your job, we are taking everything away and we are TELLING EVERYBODY.
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