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The Breakthough Program to End Negative Behavior… and Feel Great Again
Jeffrey E. Young – Janet S. Klosko – Aaron T. Beck: Reinventing Your Life Jeffrey E. Young – Janet S. Klosko – Aaron T. Beck: Reinventing Your Life

Learn ​how to end the self-destructive behaviours that stop you from living your best life with this breakthrough program.

Do you…

Put the needs of others above your own?
Start to panic when someone you love leaves — or threatens to?
Often feel anxious about natural disasters, losing all your money, or getting seriously ill?
Find that no matter how successful you are, you still feel unhappy, unfulfilled, or undeserving?
Unsatisfactory relationships, irrational lack of self-esteem, feelings of being unfulfilled — these are all problems that can be solved by changing the types of messages that people internalise. These self-defeating behavior patterns are called ‘lifetraps’, and Reinventing Your Life shows you how to stop the cycle that keeps you from attaining happiness.

Two of America’s leading psychologists, Jeffrey E. Young, PhD, and Janet S. Klosko, PhD, draw on the breakthrough principles of cognitive therapy to help you… (tovább)

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Scribe, London, 2019
386 oldal · ISBN: 9781925693874 · ASIN: B07Q2JVRPT
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Scribe, London, 2019
366 oldal · puhatáblás · ISBN: 9781912854356
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Plume, 1994
366 oldal · ISBN: 9780452272040

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Jeffrey E. Young – Janet S. Klosko – Aaron T. Beck: Reinventing Your Life

Jeffrey E. Young – Janet S. Klosko – Aaron T. Beck: Reinventing Your Life The Breakthough Program to End Negative Behavior… and Feel Great Again

Kiolvastam. Már az sem volt könnyű, annyira mélyen érintett némelyik téma. A gyerekkoromból a fejemben visszhangzó mondatokat viszontlátni a lapokon, felismerni, hogy jé, pont ezt csinálom, létezik, hogy azért, amit írnak? Létezik. Nem hittem volna, hogy önismereti-önsegítő könyv ilyen szinten tud nekem újat mutatni. Az igazi munka persze csak most kezdődik. Hogy legyen erőm és kitartásom a gyakorlatba is átültetni a javasoltakat.
Birtalan Balázsnál olvastam a könyvről. Az ő Sorskönyv nélküljét is ajánlom a téma iránt érdeklődőknek.

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Jeffrey E. Young – Janet S. Klosko – Aaron T. Beck: Reinventing Your Life The Breakthough Program to End Negative Behavior… and Feel Great Again

A (szakembereknek szóló) Shema therapy című könyv párja, nagyon hasznos és alapos önsegítő könyv. Egy tartalmas bevezető, az elmélet rövid ismertetése, a sémák és a megküzdési mechanizmusok bemutatása után 11 sémát vagy más szóval „életcsapdát” (lifetrap) tárgyal. Leírja, milyen szülői magatartás hatására alakulnak ki, mit okoznak a felnőtt életben, és hogyan tudunk rajtuk változtatni. Végül arról is szó van, miért fontos a változás, még akkor is, ha nehéz, és hogyan válasszunk jól pszichológust. Bárkinek ajánlom, aki meg szeretne szabadulni a szorongásaitól, depressziójától, félelmeitől, kényszeres és addiktív viselkedésmódjaitól vagy nem akar másokat bántani (ez utóbbiak valószínűleg nem fogják kezükbe venni a könyvet, de a szerzők mindent megtettek).

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The best time to begin changing is now. No matter how damaged you were as a child, this does not excuse you from taking responsibility for change. Childhood pain explains why change is so difficult and takes so long; it does not explain why someone allows destructive patterns to continue without working hard to alter them.

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Although there may be times when you display your anger directly,
it is more common for you to express it indirectly, in a disguised fashion—
passive-aggressively. You get back at people in subtle ways, like
procrastinating, being late, or talking about them behind their backs. You may do
this unknowingly. When pressed, you deny that you meant to express
anger.

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Beware of „cult” groups. These are groups that have charismatic leaders, require you to recruit new members (proselytizing), and generally cost large sums of money to join or complete. Cult groups foster dependency and subjugation. Members are made to feel special, that they have a secret that no one else does. In reality, cult members are encouraged to remain children rather than come to grips with the demands of adulthood. They are encouraged to follow the rules of the leader, instead of discovering their own natural inclinations.

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Speaking in terms of your own
feelings is an important component of assertiveness. This is, in part, a
practical matter. No one can argue with your feelings. If you say, „I was
right, you were wrong,” a person can argue; but if you say, „I felt angry
when you did that,” no one can argue. No one can say, „No, you didn't feel
angry.” By expressing what you feel, you make a statement that how you
feel matters.

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The journey out of the Dependence lifetrap is a movement from childhood
to adulthood. It is a trading of fear and avoidance for a sense of mastery—
for the sense you can function independently in the world. Give up the
exhausting struggle to get people to take care of you. Learn to take care of
yourself. Learn to believe in your own ability to cope by mastering the
tasks of life.

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However, the truth is that there are many people in the world who are
kinder than the people in your family.

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It is very important to realize that the Defectiveness lifetrap is not
usually based on a real defect. Even people who have serious physical or
mental handicaps do not necessarily develop this lifetrap. The crucial
factor is not the presence of a defect, but rather how you are made to feel
about yourself by your parents and the other members of your family. If
you are loved, valued, and respected by your family members—regardless
of your actual strengths and weaknesses—you will almost certainly not
feel worthless, ashamed, or defective.
Danger Signals While Dating

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However, while our childhood histories create strong obstacles to change, they do not make change impossible. The more destructive these early forces, the harder we will
have to work to change lifetraps, and the more support we will need from
others.

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If you use success in your career to make up or compensate for
feelings of defectiveness, then your sense of well-being may be quite
fragile. Your whole sense of worth becomes built on your success. Any
small deflation or failure may be enough to make you nervous.

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If you developed Entitlement as a means for coping with early Emotional
Deprivation, then you were probably cheated or deprived as a child in some
significant way. Perhaps your parents were cold and non-nurturing, so you
were emotionally deprived. You Counterattacked by becoming entitled. Or
perhaps you were materially deprived. The families around you had
money, but you were relatively poor. You wanted things that you could not
get. Now, as an adult, you make sure that you get everything.

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Hasonló könyvek címkék alapján

Bessel van der Kolk: The Body Keeps the Score
Elaine N. Aron: The Highly Sensitive Person
Susan Forward: Toxic Parents
M. Scott Peck: The Road Less Travelled
John Bradshaw: Homecoming
Nick Trenton: Calm Your Thoughts
George K. Simon, Jr.: In Sheep's Clothing
Caroline Leaf: Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess
Jonice Webb – Christine Musello: Running on Empty
Lori Gottlieb: Maybe You Should Talk to Someone